Everyone’s Opinion Doesn’t Matter

Here’s the thing: everyone has an opinion, BUT in truth it doesn’t matter. In fact, you can nag until your mouth runs dry, but in the end its an individuals choice that matters the most.  You’re in charge of your life and circumstances that surround you.  You know what best for you and your family, no one else.

So why do we let others opinions run us ragged?  Because, lets face it, we’re all opinionated at heart and believe our way is best.

Anyway you look at it, opinions are whirling all around us in everyday circumstances-ie. breastfeeding vs. formula, cloth diapers vs. disposables, homemade food vs. packaged food, SAHM vs. working mom, etc. The list goes on and on.  Its not really the opinions that get people into trouble though.   Nope, instead its the way we take the opinions to heart and transgress them to knee-high land mines in a never-ending maze.

Too many newscasts cover angry protesters and marches, and too few cover happy outcomes.

The truth of the matter is, in reality, the right answer is always different for each individual.   No one person’s reflection is going to look the same, just as one’s opinion isn’t going to look the same.  In retrospect, its not the different viewpoints that matter, its the way we handle the opinions that are thrown at us that matter in the end.

In Romans 12:16, the Bible states “Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited…”.  Therefore, be willing to listen to others, but don’t be too high strung to put a wedge between each other based on differences.  Instead, agree to disagree if needed.  Just because you have differences in opinions, doesn’t mean we can’t keep things friendly.  Be a mature adult and act accordingly.  You don’t have to take their opinion to heart, but that also doesn’t mean you have to rub their voice down to the pits.  Instead (and I’m saying with the kindness of my heart!) keep quiet, let them speak, thank them kindly for their opinion, and go about your business.  Don’t pick a fight because their opinion is different than theirs.  If you ask for their opinion, be prepared for a different viewpoint. 

We’ve turned our opinions into childish never-ending bickering, and in the end, as all us parents know, is annoying and has no true outcome. 

We’re so busy nagging at each other, that we don’t even realize we’re showing our future generation that everyone’s differences are turning the world into a cold-hearted, ruthless world.  Instead of debating over who’s right and who’s wrong, maybe its time we take a step back and re-teach ourselves what we repeatedly mold into our children: differences are what make the world go round.

Everyday Struggles

I’m not one to complain, especially after knowing what Jesus put himself through to allow us forgiveness for our sinful behaviors, but every once in awhile, more than I would care to admit, I catch myself wallowing in pity and asking myself why me?  I’m also not one to ask for pity, brag about my accomplishments, or the type to envy others for some unknown reason, however, I am human, and I do have emotions that run wild at any time of day.

My everyday routine is the same: wake up at 7AM, let the dogs out, drink my coffee (usually an entire pot 😉 ) while watching the news, eat breakfast, exercise (if I have the motivation available, which is usually not the case!),let the dogs out again,  shower, household chores, eat lunch, prepare for my husband’s return home from work, let the dogs out again,  internet blabbering while he is sleeping (he wakes up at 4AM, so a nap is always in his schedule) prepare dinner, let the dogs out, wash the dishes, prepare my to-do list for tomorrow, read a little, in bed by 10PM.

So as you can see, and no I am not complaining one bit or bragging, I do not sit around on my butt doing diddly squat!  In fact, just a couple of months ago I was working from home watching 2-7 kids at a time while completing my daily to-do lists (which I miss doing desperately).

I’m a busy stay-at-home wife, and I wouldn’t change it for the world, but as the months have progressed, a number of things have began to spiral out of control (finances, job placements, establishing a home), leaving me wondering if God is trying to tell me things have got to change for the better.  But then I stop and ask myself why?  Isn’t this supposed to be the way things are supposed to be?  Me staying at home  holding down the fort while my husband works, and so on and so forth.  It’s complicated, it really is, but then again it isn’t meant for me to understand, I’m only here to follow in His path that is so preciously paved out for me with no questions asked.

So, even though I have gone through a miscarriage only 2months ago (will explain more in a future blog), Bambi decided to total our car leaving us to take out an extensive loan on a new vehicle, which has left us very tight for cash, entitling us to move out of our own place and striking a residence in my grandparents basement (which is unfinished and very cold with no bathroom or kitchen), and we are headed towards a meltdown financially and mentally, I still believe God has a purpose for each and every thing in my life.  Therefore, I have taken the initiative to apply for any and all CNA positions in the area to help with our financial situation, as well as my husband has began looking for another job closer to home (we’re spending way too much in gas with the new vehicle to get him back and forth to work).  So far he has the chance of a part-time job in the area (which we are thankful for in so many aspects).  I on the other hand have had one interview (I did not get the job), turned down one job (was only part-time working every other weekend) and one more interview in a couple of days.  It’s nerve wracking, especially not knowing if this is the road God wants me to establish, but if it is, than I will have all the motivation to push forth and pursue it.  I know that if it is the path chosen,  than a full-time job placement for me will happen and everything will be alright.  It’s all in God’s timing.  I just have to keep reminding myself that and establish a little more patience.

When you believe in yourself, and God alone

Every day I wake up, have my coffee and believe today is going to be the day where I am going to follow through on the role God has planned out for me as a Christian wife, then I begin to see the truth of my life in reality and I end up doing a half ass job of it.  Don’t get me wrong, I dutifully follow my role to the best of my ability, but it’s a daily struggle to sit knowing full well my husband has full authority over me in anything and everything, as long as he is not asking me to sin.  There are days where doing my wifely duties with no problems is a no-brainier, but other days its a complete struggle to not complain or pour my sins out towards him.  When these sins begin to bubble up I typically try to walk in the other room, read a chapter in “The Excellent Wife” by Martha Peace (a MUST BUY-it will truly change your perspective of your Godly role as a biblical wife), recite certain scriptures that are paralleled at the emotions running hot through my veins, and take deep breaths while figuring out a better, Godly way to encounter my husband.  Every moment of every day I realize nothing is done without God’s helping hand, whether its doing the laundry, planning and making dinner, or simple enough as talking in a rightful manner.  He is there ALWAYS, its only a matter of accepting Him into your life, and putting yourself in His hands.